Visit to learn how to Breakthrough Your Achievement Barriers to finally Have It All. High Performance: The Role of Expectancies
I’m going to talk a little bit about expectancies and the role they play in your achieving success. Okay, expectancies, what is that? You have a whole series of things you expect to happen as a consequence of certain actions you take.
If you have a certain kind of encounter, if you’re used to being successful when you’re warm or bright or cheery, you have an existing expectancy that you’re going to get more of that coming right back at you, and those are kind of ongoing, expectancies that you have. They’re permanent, and they guide you, and mostly you find out that they’re right.
Every once in a while, something violates your expectancy, and that’s when you scratch your head and say, what was wrong with that person? And maybe sometimes you look inside and say, what was wrong with what I did? Either way, expectancies are in play.
And people have expectancies of you. They have a kind of track record that they’ve mapped about you, and you have a track record about you, and those track records and those expectancies are always kind of rubbing up against each other, and mostly that’s a fluid dance.
What you may not realize is that you have some expectancies that limit you. And those are kind of a mystery to you. You’re not quite sure. You only notice that every once in a while you seem to hit a ceiling, or there’s some kind of impasse, or there’s some kind of place where you try to make a move forward, and it doesn’t quite go the way you expect it to. Your expectancy is that it’s going to go well, but there’s some hidden expectancy that’s buried under the surface, and you’ve got to find out what it is.
Expectancies, though, can be consciously manipulated by you on purpose. You can try out new expectancies for size, and the powerful thing is, when you develop new expectancies, they can take you a long way in new directions that you didn’t believe, so I want you to consider developing an expectancy that you are actually going to make new steps and that you’re capable of making new steps and that you’re already in the process of making new steps toward success.
Expect success. Start to be ready for it. Be on the look out for it. Be embracing it. It’s going to make a difference. You need to get success experiences to develop in your mind a track record that that impasse was something that happened in the past. That breakdown, that glass ceiling, whatever it was you created, it was something that happened, and there was a reason it happened.
You ran into an internal idea that you allowed to limit you. Shed it, and you can have entirely new experiences. So, when you hit an impasse, look for what it was you were expecting that you didn’t get, and what it is, maybe, you need to shore up in terms of your skills, in terms of your abilities. Is there something you need to sharpen? Look for what it could be, but in a curious way, not a the sky is falling. What’s wrong with me now? Why have I failed?
Maybe, you know, maybe any of my successes weren’t that big a deal. You can fall into misery quickly if you don’t get a success you expect, but that’s only if you have an expectancy that success will come easy, and you’ll never have any setbacks. Of course you’ll have setbacks. Of course it’s not the end of the world.
There’s either some training or a conversation you need to have with a trusted advisor that’s going to put you back on track, and you can exceed what your current expectancies have been.
Your self-concept sets up a lot of expectancies. You can find out what they are, and you can release yourself from anything that holds you back.
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